Why Survivors need Self-Compassion

Self-Compassion: Your Secret Weapon for Recovery

Many survivors report feeling hollow, numb, or disconnected. This isn’t weakness—it’s a brain-body response to chronic stress. Self-compassion engages the mammalian caregiving system, releases oxytocin, and helps restore emotional balance.

Why it helps:

  1. Promotes Oxytocin Release: Simple gestures like placing a hand on your heart and breathing deeply can trigger oxytocin, fostering safety and warmth even in isolation.

  2. Decreases Cortisol: Oxytocin quiets the stress hormone, supporting a regulated nervous system.

  3. Supports Emotion Regulation: Self-compassion mitigates the double-whammy of stress from abuse and withdrawal of affection, allowing your brain and body to recalibrate.

How to practice:

  • Place a hand over your heart, breathe deeply, and notice the warmth.

  • Repeat daily, especially during moments of self-doubt or stress.

Self-compassion isn’t indulgent—it’s essential for reclaiming your emotional and physical health. Learn more neuroscience-based tools with The Neuroscience of Narcissistic Abuse Coping Kit — ECSNAR

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